ME BIGGD01
12-08-2005, 04:05 PM
Thanks to all for your prayers and thoughts.
My wife has been home since Last Friday. She is able to walk very slow and for a very short time but she is recovering well from the surgery. She finished her last day of Radiation yesterday and will have to go back in 2 weeks to see if anymore is needed.
She right now has been getting other treatments at the oncologists (not sure how to spell it) such as harmone therapy which the cancer survives from. The down fall of this is that it is forcing her into menopause and is why she can be very mean at times since she has been home along with the pain she is in. The situation sucks big time but this is just the first step in a long process. Once this harmone therapy is finished, they will start with the chemo.
As for myself, I have bags and rings around my eyes from the lack of sleep and the continous stress. It really is hard doing everything in the house with a 3 year old. I am thankful to my family and friends for all the help and support because I honestly feel like putting a bullet right through my skull but my daughter needs her dad and could never consider myself a quitter although this has been the worst fight or experience in my life.
For all the new dad's out there, I will suggest this to you because this is one of the things that has been on my mind since the beginning. I always thought I was helping enough with things at home and my daughter. Regardless of the constant bitching from the wife, I felt I was doing enough. I have been in for a rude awakening when I have had to take on 100% of the load and then some and now consider I was only doing 5% in reality when my wife was healthy. My suggestion is do more now and give your wife a break and tell her to go out as you do the work. Buy her some flowers and give her the respect we men have not really considered or shown. This has been my wake up call and without choice or denial, I am now doing it all. If you do not believe me, try it for a weekend by yourself and the understanding will take place.
My wife has been home since Last Friday. She is able to walk very slow and for a very short time but she is recovering well from the surgery. She finished her last day of Radiation yesterday and will have to go back in 2 weeks to see if anymore is needed.
She right now has been getting other treatments at the oncologists (not sure how to spell it) such as harmone therapy which the cancer survives from. The down fall of this is that it is forcing her into menopause and is why she can be very mean at times since she has been home along with the pain she is in. The situation sucks big time but this is just the first step in a long process. Once this harmone therapy is finished, they will start with the chemo.
As for myself, I have bags and rings around my eyes from the lack of sleep and the continous stress. It really is hard doing everything in the house with a 3 year old. I am thankful to my family and friends for all the help and support because I honestly feel like putting a bullet right through my skull but my daughter needs her dad and could never consider myself a quitter although this has been the worst fight or experience in my life.
For all the new dad's out there, I will suggest this to you because this is one of the things that has been on my mind since the beginning. I always thought I was helping enough with things at home and my daughter. Regardless of the constant bitching from the wife, I felt I was doing enough. I have been in for a rude awakening when I have had to take on 100% of the load and then some and now consider I was only doing 5% in reality when my wife was healthy. My suggestion is do more now and give your wife a break and tell her to go out as you do the work. Buy her some flowers and give her the respect we men have not really considered or shown. This has been my wake up call and without choice or denial, I am now doing it all. If you do not believe me, try it for a weekend by yourself and the understanding will take place.